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[Tim LeBon] Tim LeBon's December Xmas Special Newsletter - Personal Development through A Christmas Carol and It's a Wonderful Life

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:55:00 +0000

"It's Christmas!", in the immortal words of Noddy Holder. After listening to too many old Xmas records, eating too many mince pies and drinking too much Xmas tipple, what else is there to do but slouch in front of the tele and watch one of the Xmas staples they put on for us every year. In this, your Xmas special Personal Development through Philosophy and Psychology Newsletter, I'm suggesting that if you can see through the haze of sherry and turkey, there might be some enlightenment to be had in a couple of old favourites.

Feel free to forward this newsletter to any friend or colleague you think might be interested.

To enquire about psychotherapy, counselling, supervision or coaching consulations e-mail me at : tim@timlebon.com

My warmest seasonal greetings

Tim

Personal Development through Scrooge and A Christmas Carol

We all know that Charles Dickens knew a thing or two about writing a good story. Rereading A Christmas Carol recently let me to the conclusion that he also know a lot about the human psyche and personal development. I haven't seen the new film version of the story yet, but I wonder if it emphasizes the universal existential themes of the story as much as the book.

For Ebenezer Scrooge, read not just a money-obsessed miser but anyone pursuing material goals more than familial or spiritual. The ghosts of Christmas past and present are a particularly vivid way of presenting someone with lost ways of life - their own past life, and those of their happier fellow humans respectively. Most terrifying of all, the ghost of Christmas future shows Scrooge what the future holds if he carries on in his current misguided trajectory, providing massive motivation for change. I am reminded of nothing so much as some of the methods of psychotherapy and practical philosophy, including thought experiments, guided imagery and pre-mortems, and also the findings of positive psychology , that altruism and gaining a purpose larger than ourselves is more conducive to happiness than making money. Dickens really was ahead of his time ...

For a full page of further ideas and links related to A Christmas Carol visit
http://www.timlebon.com/A%20Christmas%20Carol%20by%20Charles%20Dickens%20-%20Scrooge.html

It's

I was so inspired by another Xmas favourite, It's a Wonderful Life, that I named an exercise in Wise Therapy in its honour
Here it is The 'It's a Wonderful Life' Thought Experiment

Imagine that you had never lived. What difference would it have made?
Do not dismiss this question with "not much, alas", but think careful about how, in your personal, social and professional life, you have

1) Encountered and affected other people

2) Accomplished tasks that were worthwhile

3) Experienced things that made life worth living

Use these insights to

i) Reassess your past life (as the James Stewart character did in the film)

ii) Think about what values you might want to satisfy in the future

Tim LeBon's October Newsletter - Positive Psychology course, Which ancient philosopher is your guru ? & new CBT for Therapists blog

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:06:00 +0000

Here is your October Personal Development through Philosophy and Psychology Newsletter.

Feel free to forward this to any friend or colleague you think might be interested.

To enquire about psychotherapy, counselling, supervision or coaching consulations e-mail me at : tim@timlebon.com

Have a really great October.

Tim

http://www.timlebon.com
Book: Wise Therapy

Positive Psychology course - starting at City Uni on Thursday evening, October 8th

This Thursday evening we start another exploration of the exciting new subject of Positive Psychology and it would be great to have you join us.
The course is much more than a survey of the subject, it's an interactive experience of positive psychology. Last year it resulted in a significant
increase in the happiness of most participants. How do I know that? Because students did questionnaires at the beginning and end of the course.
Moreover, this wasn't boosting happiness by osmosis - as part of the course students carry out many of the most effective interventions that have
been found to boost happiness.
We'll also have lively discussions, videos and student presentations. No previous experience of
psychology required.

To sign up, visit
http://www.city.ac.uk/cae/cfa/business/coaching_business_skills/positive_psychology.html

or call 020 7040 8865 between 9.30am and 5.00pm quoting course ref CE1941

Course Code:	CE1941
Start date(s):	Thursday 8 October 2009
Class Time:	6.30pm – 8.30pm
Number of Classes:	10 weekly classes
Course Fee:	£300.00

Here is the course blurb:-

Understanding psychology can improve your well-being and success, both at work and in your personal life. Positive psychology is the growing branch of psychology that focuses on the positive, including strengths, positive states and happiness. This course will have a particular emphasis on applying positive psychology in your personal and working life.

Topics studied will include:

Happiness
Goals and meaning
Strengths
Flow
Hope, luck and optimism
Emotional intelligence and resilience
Mindfulness and meditation
Positive relationships and empathy
Wisdom and decision-making

Read more about positive psychology

Which ancient philosopher is your guru?

The prolific writer Mark Vernon has produced a short on-line quiz to help you discover your ancient philosophy guru.

You will be asked questions like

Do you think it's more useful to think about how to be happy or how to cope with suffering?

and

Do you prefer pondering big issues or practical matters?

I wasn't sure how to answer the question about the relative importance happiness or suffering, but when I plumped for happiness my ancient guru turned out to be Epicurus, which was uncannily accurate. I do have a lot of sympathy for Epicurus's values of friendship, philosophising, reason and happiness.

When I took the test again and answered "suffering" to the first question my guru turned out to be the Stoic Zeno, which again was pretty much on the money.

Just for fun, I also tried answering questions to reflect the opposite of my real views, and my anti-guru turned out to be the sceptic Pyrrho. So I now know not to read more about him ....

Vernon's quiz isn't meant to be taken too seriously. I'd be uncomfortable thinking of Epicurus or Zeno as my guru, and would turn just as happily to Aristotle, Plato or Socrates if looking for wisdom. But the quiz is good fun and could well give the reader some good ideas about which philosophers to turn to next .To read about a variety of ancient gurus, you could alwasys turn to Vernon's new book, Plato's Podcasts.

To take the quiz, go to http://www.markvernon.com/quiz/my-philosophy-guru/

New CBT For Therapists Blog

I've just started writing a new blog which may interest you if you are a therapist or counsellor interested in elarning more about CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy),

The first article is called Giving a rationale for CBT

Some clients (or patients) may come to CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) knowing exactly what CBT is and how it will benefit them. However the majority probably won't - they may be ambivalent about the therapy and start with misconceptions about CBT.

If they understand the potential of CBT for them it will not only increase their motivation but also give them a better opportunity to engage fully in the collaborative CBT process. So it's a good idea to provide a rationale for CBT, and explain how it works, early on in the first session.

So how best to do this?

Here are some alternative ways to present CBT to the client in the first session
1) Give a handout on CBT for the client to read after the session
2) Explain the CBT rationale in session using short case vignettes and a diagram
3) Use similes and metaphors to tell the client what CBT is like.
4) Use a "naturally occuring moment" to link the client's own situation to how CBT can help them.

Read more

http://cbtfortherapists.blogspot.com/

Note: my low cost CBT scheme is now full, but please do contact me if interested in being added to the waiting list

To enquire about psychotherapy, counselling, supervision or coaching consulations e-mail me at : tim@timlebon.com

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Tim LeBon's September Newsletter - new Low Cost CBT Scheme (cognitive therapy) & new book on Positivity

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:01:00 +0000

New Cost CBT Scheme in London for Stress, Depression, Anxiety or Low Self-Esteem

One in five people in the UK suffer from depressive symptoms. Many others suffer from anxiety-related symptoms such as stress at work, social anxiety, general anxiety, panic attacks or phobias. Who knows how many other people are seriously adversely affected by other, less diagnosed problems like low self-esteem. What can be done to help?

Whereas a few years ago there was little but anecdotes and personal prejudice to choose between any number of therapies, now the evidence for dealing with these problems clearly points to the efficacy of one type of therapy.
And its name is .... CBT - or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Whilst I myself would advocate (and indeed practice) philosophical counselling, coaching and existential psychotherapy for help with making wise decisions and changing direction in life, I've come to recognise that CBT is the treatment of choice for many of the more common and specific psychological problems many people face. If you go for CBT you are picking an evidence-based, practical therapy designed to produce results relatively quickly.
If you think it's time to give CBT a try, I'd recommend first of all consulting your GP.
It's possible that you may be able to get CBT on the NHS in your area, though it isnt available in all areas and even if it is there may well be a waiting list. If NHS CBT isn't available quickly, then I may be able to help.
I have just started a low-cost therapy scheme for clients with stress or other anxiety issues, depression or self-esteem related problems.
The therapy will normally be for up to 12 individual weekly sessions. The fee will be just £30 per 50 minute session.
Acceptance to the scheme is subject to suitability and places are strictly limited.
Sessions are held in Fleet St, London.

If you are interested in more details then please contact me asap on tim@timlebon.com

For more information about CBT including links to other free resouces see my CBT web page

It begins ...

CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is one of the most popular and respected forms of therapy practised in the UK, probably because it is evidence-based and can produce results relatively quickly. The central idea of CBT is that our emotions are connected to our thoughts. By becoming aware of your thoughts, and substituting realistic thoughts for unrealistic ones, you can overcome emotional difficulties such as depression, anxiety as well as low self-esteem and relationship issues.

Although coming to prominence in the 1960s through Albert Ellis’s REBT and in the 1970s through Aaron Beck’s Cognitive model its roots lie in the ancient philosophy of the Stoics. Epictetus’s “ People are disturbed not by things but by the views which they take of them” is not so very different from David Burns’s: “By learning to change your thoughts, you can change the way you feel”

Read more

To find out more about the low-cost CBT scheme, e-mail me at tim@timlebon.com asap

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One of the most interesting books I read over the summer was the long-awaited Positivity by Barbara Fredrickson.

Barbara Fredrickson is a hard-nosed social scientist, who since the inception of positive psychology has often been cited and praised as the originator of the Broaden-and-Build Theory of positive emotions.

In this, her first book, Fredrickson sets out her ideas for the general reader, adding personal anectdotes and speculations to hard data. The book includes a positivity toolkit to help the reader raise their own positivity. Overall, I enjoyed this book and think it is a useful addition to the positive psychology literature. I think it can even tell us something useful about "the good life". But I do have some reservations, which I'll come on to later.

The Broaden-and-Build theory has been concisely summarised by its author as follows:-

"I encapsulate two classes of these benefits into my broaden-and-build theory. First, when we experience a positive emotion, our vision literally expands, allowing us to make creative connections, see our oneness with others, and face our problems with clear eyes (a.k.a. the broaden effect). Second, as we make a habit of seeking out these pleasing states, we change and grow, becoming better versions of ourselves, developing the tools we need to make the most out of life (the build effect). And strikingly, these twin benefits of positive emotions obey a tipping point: When positive emotions outnumber negative emotions by at least 3 to 1, these benefits accrue, yet below this same ratio, they don't."

So - when we are positive we become more open and creative (positive emotions broaden us) and we also grow (they build us). But, surprisingly, only when the positive outweighs the negative by more than 3 to 1. Fredrickson is arguing for positivity as a means to the good life - whether or not feeling good is itself the good life, feeling good (in these ways) helps us get in to a state where we are more likely to achieve these and other elements of the good life. This is an important point for philosophers to bear in mind - hedonism (the idea that happiness/pleasure and the absence o pain is the good life) has had a hard time recently but if it's really true that positive experiences are a means to other parts of the good life (creativity, achievement, making a difference) then a refined version of hedonism may appear more attractive.

But note well that Fredrickson does not equate positivity with pleasure. Far from it, she actually excludes bodily pleasures from her definition, since they narrow your focus and meet a survival need - whereas her ten positive emotions broaden your focus and, in the long run, she claims, "matter most" (p. 38)

So what are these top ten positive emotions?

Interest
Awe
Hope
Serenity
Joy
Inspiration
Gratitude
Pride
Amusement
Love

I personally remember these by the acronym

I HAS JIG PALWrite to me if you can think of a better acronym!

Now this is very interesting. What Fredrickson has done is suggest 10 emotions which can also be considered as candidate values, as parts of the good life. If it's true that they are good in themselves and also broaden and build us, then their candidacy looks promising. Indeed, I'd like all of these to be part of my life - though there are of course questions about their appropriateness to a particular situation and getting the right balance (bring back Aristotle!). I also wondered whether all of these were really emotions and why some other possibles had been left out (e.g. sense of purpose, sense of meaning, being loved versus being loving, friendship, empathy, compassion). Fredrickson says her ten are "colour people's lives the most" (p. 39) but I wonder how she found this out.

My second problem is similar to the one Eric Wiener expresses in his review. Hard-nosed data has its value, but sometimes it seems to only confirm the bleedin'obvious and on other occasions its difficult to distinguish the author's own speculations from ideas that have firm backing. This is particularly true when it comes to the Positivity Toolkit. The ideas here are all plausible enough - be open, create connections, cultivate kindnes, develop distractions, dispute negative thinking, find nearby nature, learn and apply your strengths etc - and some have solid scientific backing. But this section does come across as a bit of a hotch-potch of techniques rather than a tried-and-tested programme that is guarenteed to raise your positivity.

Which brings me to my third and final issue with the book. One finding that certainly can't be criticised as being mere common-sense is the discovery that there is a tipping point of 3 to 1. If you have twice as many positive as negative experiences you wont start to get the broaden-and-build benefits. They only start accruing above 3 to 1. But what follows from this is surely that we should focus more on reducing negative episodes than increasing positive ones. Suppose I have 3 negative episodes a day and 6 positive ones. My positivity ratio is 2 - not high enough! But to get it up to 3 I either need to add 3 more positive ones or have 1 less negative one - so the effort should be in reducing negative episodes. It seems kind of ironic that a book on positivity has this implication - should we actually be spending more energy on using techniques such as that advocated by CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) than on those aimed at increasing positivity?

Overall, though, I'd recommend this book. Fredrickson has a jaunty style, comes across as basically human and likeable (not always the case in social science books) and does provide a lot useful tips as well as an authoritative account of her own research.

Read On

Positivity website including on-line tests and tools http://www.positivityratio.com/

Positive Positivity review with short summary

http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com/2009/05/review-of-positivity.html

Eric Wiener's balanced Washingon Post Review http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/01/27/AR2009012703102.html

Academic paper by Fredrickson and Losada

http://www.unc.edu/peplab/publications/human_flourishing.pdf

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Have a great September

Tim

http://www.timlebon.com

Newsletter January 2009 - 3 ideas to help you achieve your goals for 2009

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 00:10:00 +0000

Barely three weeks into January - plenty enough time for mostNew Years Resolutions to have been broken and forgotten. But what's a constructive way to deal with the"Three Weeks into New Year Irresoluteness phenomenon"?

Today I'm going to suggest three useful ideas that can help a lot more than New Year's Resolution.First, individual Life Coaching. Even if it does nothing more, one-to-one life coaching provides a regular boost to your motivation and some objective feedback to your progressin achieving your important goals. Good Life Coaching will offer much more than this, and the ideasthat I use most with clients come from practical philosophy (what would a wise person advise about this?),,positive psychology (what does research tell us will help me become happier?) and cognitive therapy(how can I change the way I think to change the way I feel?). I've just opened up some extra slotsfor life coaching in Central London on Friday afternoon/early evening. If you are interested in findingout more about how this can help you, drop me an e-mail at tim@timlebon.com

A second acitivity that can be very useful and enjoyable is to attend an adult education class. London mayhave many faults, but lack of good adult education is not amongst them. Adult Education classes at centralLondon locations like the City Lit near Covent Garden and City University in Islington are a great way of getting the brain stimulated instead of vegging out in front of the TV.I'm running three courses that might be of interest in the next week.There's a one-off workshop on Philosophical Life Coaching next Saturdayat the City Lit - no previous experience of philosophy or coaching required - and two ten-week courses at City University, on Personal Development ThroughPhilosophy (Tuesday evenings) and Positive Psychology (Thursday evenings) respectively.None of these courses require previous experience of philosophy or psychology, and allthat is needed from you is an interest in the subject and a desire for it to help you in practice.

A third practice that may help you achieve your goals this year is to read some good personal development books.
Regular readers will know that I am not one of those people who disparage all personal development or "self-help" books.
Sure, Aristotle, Sartre, Marx and Darwin were more original and profound thinkers than those that feature in the self-help section
of your local book shop - but how readable and practical are their great works?
The best self-help books distill this wisdom into understandable and practical advice -making it as simple as it can be, but no simpler.
This year you will see that whilst the top few classics remain much the same as last year, there are some new entries lower down the chart.
The new entries cover mindfulness, relationships, and changing habits - all very important topics. The recommended books on them provide
accessible and well-researched introductions. Hope that some of these books are of use for you.
1. The Seven Habits of Highly effective People Stephen Covey (1)
2. Man's Search for Meaning Viktor Frankl (2)
3. The Feeling Good Handbook David Burns (3)
4. Overcoming Low Self-Esteem Melanie Fennell (4)
5. The Conquest of Happiness Bertrand Russell (5)
6. The Mindful Way Through Depression Mark Williams, John Teasdale et al (-)
7. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff -and it's all small stuff Richard Carlson (6)
8. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work John M. Gottman& Nan Silver (-)9. Changing for Good James Prochaska et al(-)10. How to Win Friends and Influence People Dale Carnegie (9)
Bubbling Under
Emotional Intelligence Daniel Goleman (7)
The Consolations of Philosophy Alain de Botton (10)
The Art of Happiness Howard Cutler and the Dalai Lama (8)
Happiness - Mathieu Ricard (-)
The How of Happiness Sonja Lyubomirsky (-)
Of course this list just reflects my personal opinion - I wonder what books we'll find helpful in 2009 ...

Whichever of these three roads you choose, or if you choose your own path, I wish youevery success with all your dreams and objectives for 2009

Tim LeBon

http://www.timlebon.com

Positive Psychology: Recommended Reading

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 19:18:00 +0000

There are so many books published on positive psychology now that it is hard to keep up. All the more reason to note down books that I think are most useful. Please use the comments link to add any other recommendations or comment on any of these.

The first book in each section is my top recommendation

General

Boniwell, I (2007) Positive Psychology in a Nutshell (London: PWBC)

Compton W,C. (2005) Introduction to Positive Psychology (Belmont: Thomson Wadsworth)

Seligman, M. Authentic Happiness (New York: Free Press, 2002)

Snyder, C.R . & Lopez, S (2002) Handbook of Positive Psychology. New York: OUP

Linley P. & Joseph,S Positive Psychology in Practice Wiley (2004)

Carr,A. Positive Psychology (Hove and New York: Brunner-Routledge, 2004)

Happiness and Well-Being

Lyubomirsky, S (2008) The How of Happiness (Sphere)

Gilbert, D (2006) Stumbling on Happiness (Harper)

Haidt, J. The Happiness Hypothesis (London: Arrow, 2006)

Nettle, D. Happiness (Oxford: OUP, 2005)

Ben-Shahar, T (200) Finding Pleasure, Meaning and Life's Ultimate Currency (McGraw-Hill)

Layard, R Happiness (London: Penguin, 2006)

Argyle,M. The Psychology of Happiness (London: Routledge, 2001)

Eysenck, M (1990) Happiness (L.E.A)

Myers, D.M. The Pursuit of Happiness (New York: Morrow, 1992)

Keyes, C and Haidt , J (ed) Flourishing: Positive Psychology and the Life Well-Lived

Weiner, E (2008) The Geography of Bliss (Twelve)

Flow

Csikszentmihalyi , M. Flow: The Psychology of optimal experience (1990)

Csikszentmihalyi . M. Finding Flow (1997)

Strengths

Rath, T. (2007) StrengthsFinder (New York, Gallup)

Bolt, M (2004) Pursuing Human Strengths: A Positive Psychology Guide (Worth)

Peterson, C & Seligman, M (2004) Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification (OUP)

Aspinall,L. & Staudinger, U. A Psychology of Human Strengths (Washington, APA, 2003)

Emotions, Emotional Intelligence and Resilience

Goleman, D. (1995) Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ New York: Bantam

Reivich, K., & Shatte, A. (2002). The Resilience Factor. New York: Broadway Books.

Goleman, D. (1998) Working with Emotional Intelligence: Bantam

Epstein,S (1998) Constructive Thinking: The Key to Emotional Intelligence (Westport, Praeger)

Barr-On, R & Parker, J (2000) The Handbook of Emotional Intelligence (Jossey-Bass)

The positive psychology of Buddhism and Mindfulness

Levine, M. (2000) The Positive Psychology of Buddhism & Yoga (LEA)

Goleman, D. (2003) Destructive Emotions (London: Bloomsbury)

H.H Dalai Lama & Cutler, H (1998) The Art of Happiness (London, Hodder and Stoughton)

Benson, H. (1975)The Relaxation Response (New York: William Morrow)

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005) Full Catastrophe Living (London: Piatkus)

Langer, E (1989) Mindfulness (Perseus)

Ricard, M (2007) Happiness (Atlantic)

Hope, Optimism and Luck

Seligman, M Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life New York: Pocket Books

Snyder, C.R (2000) Handbook of Hope. Orlando FL: Academic Press

Gillham, J The Science of Optimism and Hope Philadelphia, PA: Templeton Foundation Press (2000)

Wiseman, R. The Luck Factor (Arrow, 2004)

Positive Relationships - Love and Friendship

Gottmann, J. & Silver, N. (1999) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (London: Orion)

Sternberg, R, (1988) The Triangle of Love (New York: Basic)

Wisdom and Decision-Making

Sternberg,R. & Jordan, J. (2005) A Handbook of Wisdom (Cambridge: CUP)

Philosophy relevant to Positive Psychology

Aristotle (2004) Nicomachean Ethics (Penguin)

Russell, B. (2006)) The Conquest of Happiness (Routledge)

Fromm, E (1995) The Art of Loving (Thorsons)

LeBon, T (2001) Wise Therapy (London: Sage)

Bellioti, R (2004) Happiness is Overrated (Maryland: Rowman & Littlefield)

Schoch, R (2007) The Secrets of Happiness (London: Profile)

Revel, J-F & Ricard, M (1998)The Monk and the Philosopher (New York: Schocken)

Self-Help books relevant to Positive Psychology
(Note: Many of these are based on empirical research, but are included because they contain interesting ideas that may be the starting point for research)

LeBoef, M. (1980) Creative Thinking (London: Piatkus)

Buzan, T (2000) The Mind Map Book London:BBC

Buzan, T (2000) Use Your Head London:BBC

de Bono, E. (1982) de Bono's Thinking Course. London: BBC Books

de Bono, E . (2000) Six Thinking Hats. London: Penguin

Gelb, M (2004) How to Think like Leonardo da Vinci Element Books

Harris, R. (1998) Creative Thinking Techniques

Osborn, A. (1953) Applied Imagination. New York: Scribners

Rawlinson, J. (1986) Creative Thinking and Brainstorming. London: Gower

Hammond, J, Keeney, R & Raiffi, H (1999) Smart Choices (Boston: Harvard)

Paterson, R. (2000) The Assertiveness Workbook (Oakland: New Harbinger)

Sharma, R (1997) The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari (Ontario: Harper Collins)

Popovic, N. (2005) Personal Synthesis. (London: PWBC.)

Branden, N. (2004) The Six Pillars of self-esteem (Random House)

Clegg, B & Birch, P (1999) Instant Creativity Kogan Page

Positive Psychology Coaching and Interventions

Biswas-Diener, R & Dean, B Positive Psychology Coaching. (New Jersey, WIley, 2007)

Frisch, M. (2006) Quality of Life Therapy (New Jersey: Wiley)

Shane J. Lopez (Editor), C.R. Snyder (Editor) Positive Psychological Assessment: A Handbook of Models and Measures

Precursors to Positive Psychology

Levinson, D. Season’s of a Man’s Life (New York: Ballantine, 1986)

Maslow, A. Motivation and Personality (Longman, 1987)

Pervin, L & John, O. Handbook of Personality. New York: Guilford.

Vaillant, G.E. Adaption to Life (Harvard University Press, 1995)

Bowlby,J. (1971) Attachment and Loss Volume 1: Attachment Penguin Books, Harmondsworth

Creativity and Creative Thinking

Sternberg, R (1999) Handbook of Creativity Cambridge, UK

Newsletter 6 - New Years Rules for Happiness and January courses

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 17:09:00 +0000

Regular readers may recall that in general I am not in favour of New Years Resolutions
(See last year's article New Years Resolutions? You must be nuts ...)
However, today's Times features a really interesting piece by none other than the Chief Rabbi,
Jonathan Sacks, entitled Count your blessings and begin to change your life
The apparent contradiction is resolved because Sacks isnt so much recommending unrealistic
resolutions as pretty wise-looking rules for living well. You can read Sacks's whole article online, but here's a list of his 10 recommendations.(the bits in brackets are my gloss on what he says)

Read more of this article .... including 5 more tips for living happily suggested by Tim LeBon

(The above article is the most recent article on Tim LeBon's Socrates Satisfied blog).

One of Sachs's tips is to engage in livelong learning - here are details of 4 courses that may be just the ticket ..

4 courses in practical philosophy and psychology starting in early January

If learning, personal development or well-being are amongst your new year's goals, then you might like to sign up for one of 4 courses I'm running in the next couple of weeks.
They are:
Frankl and the Search for Meaning
Friday 18th Jan 2008 1030-1730 Location: City Lit, Central London
Viktor Frankl's ideas can inspire everyone aiming to find more meaning and purpose in their life.
This lively and highly-rated workshop will help you start the New Year focusing on this important issue.
Call 020 7831 7831 to enrol or visit the City Lit website

Philosophical Life Coaching
Saturday 19th Jan 2008 1030-1630 Location: City Lit, Central London
" “Move over Carole Caplin. The new gurus of self-help are philosophical counsellors from beyond the grave” proclaimed the Independent recently.
Lead a more satisfying and meaningful life by using insights and methods from the great thinkers. This introduction will show you some of the most interesting ways it can be of help.
No previous experience required
Call 020 7831 7831 to enrol or visit the City Lit website

Personal Development through Philosophy

This 10 week course will show how studying philosophy can help you discover how they can be true to themselves, make wiser decisions and develop more enlightened values.

Course Information
Course Code:	CE1944
Course Fee:	£100
Start date:	Tuesday 15 January 2008
Class Time:	6.30pm – 8.30pm
Number of Classes:	10 weekly classes
Accreditation:	10 credits at level 1

To enrol call 020 7040 8268 between 9.30am and 5.00pm.or visit the City Uni website

Positive Psychology

Positive psychology is the growing branch of psychology that focuses on the positive, including strengths, positive states and well-being. This course will have a particular emphasis on how positive psychology can make you more effective in your working life in terms of your strengths, emotional intelligence, creativity, decision making, meaning and purpose.

Course Code:	CE1941
Course Fee:	£180
Start date:	Thursday 17 January 2008
Class Time:	6.30pm – 8.30pm
Number of Classes:	10 weekly classes
Accreditation:	10 credits at level 1

Call 020 7831 7831 to enrol or visit the City Lit website

Labels: courses, positive psychology, practical philosophy

Newsletter 5 - December 2007 - 3 new useful sites

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 19:14:00 +0000

Wouldn't it be useful to read wise quotations, short articles about insightful books and films and news of relevance for personal development? I thought so too, and much as I like other sites, I decided a few months ago that they didn't give me quite what I wanted.
So I've been busy creating three new blogs in addition to Socrates Satisfied.
If you have visited my home page, http://www.timlebon.com recently, you'll have seen highlights from the 3 new blogs when you scroll down the main page. In case you haven't, here's what they offer.
The three new blogs are called Wise Quotes, Wise Books & Personal Development News.

Read on and follow the links to find out more ...

Wise Quotes

It's always good to hear wise words from great thinkers old and new. Sometimes they tell us something we didn't truely appreciate before. At other times, as Christina Feldman's quote below reminds us, the hardest challenge is remembering to put our knowledgeinto practice. Looking at wise quotes regularly can help you learn knew insights and remind you of how much you already know.

The Secret of Eternal Happiness (Robin Sharma)

Find out what you truly love to do and then direct all your energy towards doing it

Robin Sharma, The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari, p. 55

Remembering to be mindful is the great challenge - Christina Feldman

Mindfulness is neither difficult nor complex;
Remembering to be mindful is the great challenge

Christina Feldman

Keywords: Mindfulness, Meditation, Wisdom, Christina Feldman

Read On: Christina Feldman on Stillness and Insight and Dependent Origination

Read more Wise Quotes at http://quotes.timlebon.com

Wise Books -and Films

This is probably my favourite of all the blogs I write. Although Plato's Republic is shown above, you are just as likely to read about films like It's a Wonderful Life here. Whenever I see a film or read a book which I think helpful for wise living, I add an entry. You'll find plenty about recent philosophy and psychology books - as well as some more off-beat entries, like the one below ..

Monday, July 30, 2007

Blink - Doctor Who and the Existentialists

Don't blink. Blink and you're dead. Don't turn your back. Don't look away. And don't blink.

The first time I watched this stand-out episode from the latest season of the British children's science fiction programme Doctor Who, I didn't think too much about philosophy. I was far too busy consoling my terrified children. For some reason weeping angels who send you back in time, ageing or killing your present-day self, were much, much scarier than Daleks or Cybermen.

The second time I saw Blink I couldn't understand how I missed the existential theme the first time around.

The episode's title - BLINK - as in " blink and life will pass you by" - is the first hint.

Then there are the experiences of the characters. After a visitation by the time-stealing angels, all that is left of Sally's friend Kathy are her remains in a graveyard. Billy, a young and sassy policemen, fares little better. One moment he is chatting up Sally Sparrow with the immortal line

Life is short and you are hot.

The next time we see Billy, he is an old man in hospital, about to die. As he catches sight of young Sally he laments

Look at my hands. They're old man's hands -- how did that happen?

We know that Billy and Kathy's fate await us all - weeping angels are but an exaggeration of the human condition.

Generally Doctor Who reminds us of the downside of immortality. The Doctor lives for hundreds of years and regenerates when his old body gets damaged beyond repair. The Doctor can help us be aware of problems with life going on too long - boredom, too much knowledge, too many memories and the loss of loved ones being some of the afflictions associated with extreme longevity.

BLINK firmly reminds us of the opposite reality. Life is short - and we have no idea just how short. Life is short -so we need to make the most of it. Life is short - so treasure every moment.

And remember:

Carpe Diem.

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may.

And - whatever you do - don't blink.

You can read more about wise books and films at http://wisebooks.timlebon.com

Personal Development News

This blog, which lives at http://news.timlebon.com, announces interesting events and courses - as well as news relevant to personal development and featured in the press.
Here's news about an free event in London in a couple of weeks time - maybe you would like to come along.

Free talk on Philosophy in Schools, London Friday, Dec 14th 2007 630pm

Talk on Philosophy in Schools

Peter Worley is giving a free talk on "Philosophy in Schools" at 630pm on Friday December 14th in Central London

Peter studied philosophy at University College London and Birbeck College, London. He is a philosophical practitioner who for the last four years has been developing his own approach to teaching philosophy to London primary school children.

Venue: David Wynter Room 2nd floor Swedenborg House 20-21 Bloomsbury Way London WC1A 2TH

The entrance to Swedenborg House is in Barter Street and doors are open from 6.00 p.m.

The nearest underground stations are Holborn and Tottenham Court Road

Please e-mail spp@timlebon.com in advance if you would like to come.

Very best seasonal greetings -

Hope to see you soon

Tim

Issue 1 - Life Regrets, Mill & Serenity Prayer

noreply@blogger.com (Tim LeBon) — Sun, 22 Oct 2006 14:07:00 +0000

Tim LeBon's Personal Development Through Philosophy and

Personal Development Through Philosophy and Psychology
Newsletter Issue 1

By Tim LeBon

Welcome to issue 1 of
a newsletter designed both to entertain and inform. Today we discuss a
new survey on pensioner's regrets, J.S. Mill, whose bicentenary fell
this year and the Serenity Prayer, the wisdom of which originates in
Stoic philosophy. I hope you find these articles interesting and useful
in your own journey of personal development.

Personal Development in the News
- Looks
like Betjeman wasn't alone ...

Featured Personal Development Thinker
- J.S.
Mill

Featured Personal Development Quotation - The
Serenity Prayer

Personal Development in
the News

Looks
like Betjeman wasn't alone ...

S ir
John Betjeman, late in life, said his one regret was that he
had not had enough sex.

A UK poll published in October 2006 suggests that he was not alone. 70%
of pensioners included "more sex" as one their top ten wishes if they
could have their time over again. In comparison, many 20-30 year olds
actually wanted to sleep with less partners (23%) and seemed a lot more
bothered about material concerns -

their main regret was that they hadnt bought property earlier (77%)

Unfortunately, the results don't reveal gender differences, which I am
sure would have made fascinating reading. Are women pensioners
regretting not having more sex to the same extent as men, or is the
story like it is in Woody Allen's Annie Hall?

When their respective
therapists ask Annie (Dianne Keaton) and Alvy (Woody Allen) how often
they sleep together, they give strangely similar yet different answers.

"Hardly ever" laments Alvy, "Maybe three times a week."

"Constantly" compains Annie. "I'd say three times a week."

So what are we to make of the findings? James Newton, of UKTV Gold, who
commisioned the survey, commented :-

"Who would have thought
that pensioners would be so fixated on having missed their opportunity
to have more sex and travel the world, while twenty-somethings are more
concerned about property?"

Well, maybe that old
sage, Abraham
Maslow, who long ago in his hierarchy of human needs
postulated that we are most motivated by what we are lacking. From
Maslow's perspective, it's hardly surprising that 20-somethings,
probably in debt, value money and that pensioners, many whose sexual
needs are not met as they once were, value sex. If that's true, then
the poll results shouldn't be interpreted as providing universal
answers to the question "what matters most". It's even possible to turn
Maslow's ideas round and ask "is what is motivating me most now just a
symptom of my not having it?. Would I be really happy if I did have
it?".

Or am I being too sceptical about the poll results? Maybe we should
leave the last word on that to Woody Allen.

Sex without love an empty
experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best.

The results of the UKTV
Gold poll in full:

Pensioners "If I could turn back time I'd like to" Top 10	%	20-30 year olds "If I could turn back time I'd like to" Top 10	%
1.Have more sex	70	1. Buy property earlier	77
2. Travel more	57	2. Not waste money	56
3. Change jobs	45	3. Vote differently	45
4. Save more	50	4. Be famous	44
7. Spend "frivolously"	19	7. Study harder	30
8. Set up business,	16	8. Booze less	28
9. Study harder	12	9. Take vocational courses	25
10. Be famous	7	10. Sleep around less	23

1500 over-65s and 20-30
year olds were interviewed for the poll, conducted by UKTV Gold

External Links

Pensioners
regret not having more sex -survey

More
sex please, we're old and British

Pensioners'
wish: to have had more sex

Featured
Personal Development Thinker

1. J.S. Mill

"Tis
better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied"

John
Stuart Mill

(1806-1873)

John Stuart Mill
was arguably the most important British philosopher of the 19th
century. With an estimated IQ of 192, he was way ahead of his time in
his advocacy of women's rights and his principle that we should be free
to do what we like as long as it harms no-one else is still often
quoted in many a modern debate.

For personal development through philosophy, Mill can help in three
ways.

1) Consider the Consequences

Consequentialism
is the idea that you base your decision-making on the consequences of
your actions. Should you say the kind thing or the unkind thing? Should
you give to charity or not? Should you continue to smoke or give up? If
John Stuart Mill were here to advice you , he would say "consider the
consequences". This is a very simple, forward-looking and helpful piece
of advice- try it and see!

2) Value happiness - both your own happiness and other
people's happiness

Everyone
wants happiness, and, Mill tells us, they are right to do so. Mill
considered happiness to be the good, but his philosophy was more subtle
than the old Epicurean ideal of just valuing pleasure. First, Mill and
his fellow utilitarians thought that it is everyone's happiness that
should be improved - not just your own. Try to make other people and
yourself as happy as possible. Secondly, Mill did not think all
pleasures equal - hence his famous "better Socrates dissatisfied than a
fool satisfied" adage, This brings us to his third idea.

3) Ask "What would a well-informed person say and do in this situation?"

Mill disagreed
with his godfather, Jeremy Bentham, that "pushpin was as good as
poetry". He thought that any competent judge - someone who had
experienced both - would prefer certain "higher" pleasures to "lower"
ones. You don't have to agree with Mill about poetry to find value in
his general idea - that we can benefit by asking "what would a
well-informed person say about this situation?". Wondering
whether to become a teacher or a lawyer? Mill's idea suggests you
should speak to someone who has experienced both - or better still, try
out both yourself, before deciding.

External
Links

Full text of Utilitarianism and Autobiography
at www.utilitarianism.com

Prospect
article
for Mill bicentenary by Richard Reeves

Wiki article on J.S. Mill

Article in The
Times
to celebrate Mill bicentenary

Radio 4 "In
our Times"
on John Stuart Mill

Featured Personal
Development Quotation

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.

You may
have already encountered this saying, the Serenity Prayer, perhaps on a
tablemat in a souvenir shop or as the prayer associated with AA
(Alcoholics
Anonymous). You may have written it off
either as a clichéd truism or as applicable only to
alcoholics. If so, can I
ask you to now reread the Serenity Prayer, now, slowly, as if you were
reading
it the first time? You may end up believing, like me, that far from
offering
trite advice it contains the seeds of great practical wisdom. Why do I
say
this? Let’s look at each of the three parts of the Prayer in
turn.

First,
have the serenity to accept what you can’t change. Think about some things
that you really, really can’t
change. Perhaps
the fact you weren’t
born a millionaire, or that the world is not always a fair place. What
is the
best attitude you can take to these realities? To get angry? No,
you’ll only
make a bad situation worse. To try to put things right? By definition,
no,
because these are thing that you can’t change, so it will
just be wasted
energy. Accepting the situation and not letting it disturb your peace
of mind
is the only appropriate response.

What
about things that you can (and
should)
change? Although by definition these are things we can change, this
doesn’t
mean it’s easy, popular or risk-free to do so. It’s
not easy to change oneself
into being a more patient person (but it can be done). It is not always
popular
to campaign for something you believe in (but things can change as a
result). We can
change these things,
but we need courage to do so.

Finally,
and above all, we need the wisdom to tell the difference between the
things we
can change and the things we can’t change. We can’t
change the fact that we
were not born a millionaire, but we can put effort into becoming richer,
or
change our attitude to not being so wealthy. We can’t make
the world a
completely fair place, but we can make the world a fairer place.
Usually there
will be some aspects of a situation we can change, and some aspects we
can’t.
We need to distinguish which is which and then change courageously or
accept
serenely as appropriate.
What I like most about the Serenity Prayer is how easy it is to recall and
apply in
difficult situations. Such a situation happened to me a while ago, a
few days
before I was due to go abroad to a conference I really wanted to go to.
Having
finished lunch in a restaurant, I checked in my trouser pocket for my
wallet
–only to discover that it wasn’t there. I looked
next in my jacket pocket – no
wallet. Neither was it in my briefcase or anywhere else. I
tried to think back to when I last saw it,
and recalled having it on entering a train station a few hours before.
I also
remembered someone bumping into me rather carelessly (or so I thought
at the
time) soon after. I guessed the rest. What to do? It must have been
several
hours ago that he stole my wallet. Thoughts began to race through my
mind. What
else did I have in my wallet? Had he already bankrupted me by using my
credit
cards? If only I’d taken a different journey…. If
only I’d checked my pocket
after he’d bumped into me… Maybe I’d
have to cancel my conference trip …

Luckily,
before these thoughts got completely out of control, I remembered the
Serenity
Prayer. I had to
accept with serenity
what I could not change. Well, I could not change the fact that my
wallet had
been stolen. There was no point beating myself up or fretting about
these
unchangeables – that would cause me to be even more upset and
also stop me thinking
about what I could change. So, what
could I change? Well, obviously I could limit my liability –
first thing was to
phone the bank. Then
I could arrange
for the credit card company to see if they could send me new cards
before my travel
– there was just sufficient time for them to do so. In future, I
resolved, I would be more alert to people bumping
into me. Using the
Serenity Prayer
helped me deal constructively with this mini-crisis, and it has helped
me many
times since. Forget
the table mat image
and AA associations and focus on the underlying message and it can be
of great
assistance to you too.

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more, see Tim's Personal Development
through Philosophy and Psychology website

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